It occurs to me (because my friend brought it up) that there seems to be a discrepency between what specific features people place most importance on. Most people in the "mainstream" place much importance on physical features.
I know there has to be a balance. Quite frankly (as my friend and I discussed) the physical attraction has to be there. Sometimes though that attraction can be ...I don't really want to say manipulated, but basically....by actions, emotions, glances, etc. For instance, there are certain people that I am not immediately attracted to. But once I get to know them, they grow more attractive when coupled with personality. I have, on occasion, had this happen over people who I otherwise find mostly unattractive physically.
BUT that doesn't happen very often. I know that what will eventually draw me to my husband will be his motives, actions, personality, and heart more so than what he looks like. But I am unlikely to be drawn to him to find those things out unless I am also drawn to his appearance.
However, I cannot make such statements and not expect it to be a two-way street. In fact, I think that it's more so coming from the opposite direction. I think that the way a woman dresses and fixes herself is understood to be reflective of her respect for her date/boyfriend/husband/etc. And it seems that men are not as likely to be drawn to personality first as women are.
So do not think I speak arrogantly or spilling over with advice for men. I see it as a reflecting on how I present myself. I am a woman of comfort. I love jeans, tshirts, and even sweats and baseball caps. However, I have not found that to be the best bait on the hook.
Just wondering what tomorrow holds...
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